i am just going to talk about this once..

and never bring it up again. well, maybe.

I don't understand guys. Period, end of sentence. Don't get them, probably never will.
I am partially talking about my experience with men, but am also talking about some of the dumbasses that I know and love so well, that just happen to be men. Spent the day on the boat yesterday with some single friends- we all were talking about the boondagle that is our relationships.

See this is the way I think things should be( and since I am a dating retard this means NOTHING). This scenario can go a few different ways.

Boy and Girl Meet- they meet in a bar, at Starbucks, at church, online, at the carwash, at the dentist. Who knows, who cares, it doesnt matter they meet.
They exchange pleasantries. They do that damn conversation bullshit trying to figure each other out.
They exchange phone numbers, e-mails, blood type- again, whatever, they exchange information that encourages futher communication.
(Ok, at this point is where I am going to say how I think it should work)
Person A calls Person B. Again, they try to figure out whether or not they move forward to the dreaded first date. Phone calls are important- you get to figure out whether or not you like they way this person sounds. If their voices grates on you, or if they use the lovely phrase "aint got no..", you might want to thank them for their time, wish them well in life, but end the freaking phone call. Be assertive. Make close ended statements. If you dont want to ever see this person again, dont say "we should hang out some time", if you never ever plan on seeing this person again. OR dont leave it hanging if you really do want to see this person again- be agressive and ask this person who you have enjoyed talking to out for a drink, a latte, or a lunch. If you are curious about this person, grab life by the proverbial balls and do something about it. Lord, we are all old enough now to know how to talk. Most of us are professionals that have to talk to people every day.
Ok, you get to the first date- it goes well. Girl isnt repulsed by Boys eating habits, Boy doesnt throw up in his mouth when girl smiles at him. MAKE PLANS TO DO SOMETHING AGAIN- Bite the bullet, put it out there- lets see where this shit goes.
On the other hand, the date goes HORRIBLY. I mean, you cant wait for this date to end. You dont even want to make eye contact with this person for fear that they might have evil lasers shooting from their eyes. They smell weird to you, they have a toupee that wont stop moving around their head (ok, thats from personal experience)- you know there is no way in hell that you EVER want to see this person again. Now its time to slip on the Big Kids Underroos and be honest with the person. Thank them for meeting you out, but tell them that you arent really feeling it, and you think its better to leave it at just one date. It may be an instant sting, and suck, but really, it will save everyone hurt and angst down the road. (Ok, I lied and told Toupee Man that I was dating someone, but that was years ago, i'm smarter now)

So you move forward- you date a bit, and you are getting comfortable with a person. Tell the person what you are thinking. We are all getting older. I have a friend that dated a girl for 5 months, but he was afraid of breaking up with her, because he didnt want to hurt her feelings. They literally went out for 5 months and he couldnt stand her. I have a girlfriend that dated a guy for three months and then one day just stopped calling the guy. Poor schumck, had no idea what happened to him. If we are old enough to date and to have sex, we should be old enough to tell each other how we feel.

Oh, this brings me to another point... if you are seeing multiple people- TELL the people. Most will be happy that you told them you are still dating other people- it gives a good guide for where you are at in the dating world. (Of course I am of that old school philosophy that you should only sleep with one person at a time.. but what do I know?) I have another friend who is dating a girl, but keeps a back up "hook-up" in his back pocket. His philosophy is "you never know when you might need to get some"- In my oh-so humble opinion, thats just total crap, but what do I know.

Finally- my last point on this current thought.

Say you are dating a person, and you really like them- tell the person. It will make their day- Dont be a chicken shit and not tell them for fear of being vulnerable- another friend is ass over teacups in love with a guy, but she doesnt want to tell him first. My guess is that he probably feels the same way, but is afraid to tell her.
Say you are dating a person, and you just dont like them anymore- tell the person. Time is too valuable, and life is too damn short to fake something. Tell them, and move on.

Maybe its my group of friends- we are the WORST daters in the world. There are a few of the lucky schmucks that get married, and they somehow won the lotto. We look up to them as our dating guru's. I just know, after going to lunch with some friends and sharing stories about this, most people in the world don't know how to date- Lord knows, I don't. I just dont understand the process at all- maybe my little twisted philosophy is off base. Maybe I am doing it all wrong. Who knows. I sure as hell don't.